What Is a Soulful Couple?
If you’ve been following our work, you may have wondered, what does the phrase “Soulful Couple” really mean? A soulful couple is a name we, Jim and Ruth Sharon, first coined to describe our own relationship. Over the years, it’s been touchstone for our journey together, and it’s also inspired the work we do with other couples. Today I’d love to share a little more about what being a “Soulful Couple” means to us...
We know we are souls having a human experience on this amazing journey on Earth. We have come with intention, purpose, and commitment. Our lives have been divinely inspired and we connect spiritually through prayer, meditation, service to our fellow humans, and enormous healing.
Our Journey
Through a series of lovely synchronicities, we met in college in 1967—yes, the ‘60s. We married in 1970 after a long-distance relationship (yes, we managed to keep the flame alive). I graduated from college with a degree in Elementary Education, and Jim earned his Master’s in Psychology. I knew I wanted to be a psychologist also, but I did not have the funds for more college. Generously, Jim’s dad paid for my Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology. We moved to Colorado in 1973 for Jim to earn his doctoral degree in Psychology. The plans were being laid, unknowingly, for us to work together!
We carved out our own way to begin our family, work together, and serve the community. Our private practice was born in 1976, along with our daughter Alaina. We are honored to have three amazing children (who are all married to terrific people) and we enjoy being with our two granddaughters (more kids to come, we hope!). As our passion grew for serving other couples to help them raise their vibration and expand their skills, we established Soulful Couples programs, events, coaching, and writings. In our practice, we guide others to heal old patterns, connect with one another, and align their life purpose so that they can harvest the glorious gifts of sacred loving relationships.
When we were first married and set up house, I used to say we “fired on all cylinders.” We could not believe our good luck in meeting each other. Now we know we were baschert—meant to be together.
We labeled the four areas of existence (the cylinders) long ago—being physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually attuned with each other. Now affectionately we refer to this alignment of our individual lives as “Living in the Mansion of Love.” We are committed to living in more and more rooms of this expansive, ever abundant mansion and its lovely grounds. We are truly blessed.
What is your story? How does your individuality dovetail with your partner’s life focus and purpose? Share with us in the comments below!
Try This Date Night Idea!
What does “Soulful Couple”mean to you?
In workshops and retreats, we ask this question using the acrostic:
S
O
U
L
F
U
L
Here are some of the words that come up for couples we know:
S = sensitive, sacred, spiritual
O = open, optimistic, opportunities
U = understanding, Upper Mind, uncovered
L = loving, loyal, laughing
F = forgiving, faithful, fun
U = uplifting, uncomplicated, urgency to fulfill life purpose
L = light, luminous, luxurious
Ask your honey to have a date with you, at home, at a coffee shop, on a walk, at a restaurant. When you are both ready, take a deep breath and calm your nerves so you can be present and engaging. Use the acrostic on a piece of paper to fill in your words together. Keep interacting and discussing the concepts that come up so that you come to understand each other more and connect heart to heart—perhaps even soul to soul.
Were you surprised by the ideas or insights that emerged from this activity? Did you learn anything new about your partner or your relationship? Please share your comments here and on our Facebook page. We love engaging in conversation and sharing wisdom.
All the best,
Your Relationship Coach,
Ruth Sharon, M.S.
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Ruth Sharon is a relationship coach, Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT). Her passion is facilitating couples to enhance the vitality of their relationship and make healthy lifestyle choices. Ruth shares her wisdom, compassion and humor with individuals, couples, families, and groups. Ruth and her husband, who have been married since 1970, co-authored Secrets of a Soulful Marriage: Creating and Sustaining a Loving, Sacred Relationship, SkyLight Paths Publishing, 2014. They are delighted to offer coaching for couples and singles, in person and virtually, as well as transformative couples’ retreats, seminars and online courses.